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I was honored to get to speak for The Bridge Breast Network at the Attorneys Serving the Community event. The Bridge Breast Network is a non-profit in Dallas that provides diagnostic and treatment services for women with breast health / breast cancer issues. The uninsured and underinsured women of Dallas county who need them are growing.
Started by breast surgeon Sally Knox, M.D., The Bridge Breast Network houses 10 women in an office who are turning donations into care ten fold. For every dollar donated, 10 dollars worth of care is provided. 95% of the donations go directly to the medical care. Not research. Not salaries. DIRECT CARE.
They're need for more help went up 76% last year while their donations received went down.
If you're looking for a charity to send your dollars to, please check this one out.
I'm here because they helped me.
CLICK HERE TO SEE THEIR WEBSITE
When I first read the story, I was furious. I was so angry that I wanted to find a way to Los Angeles just to let you know how I felt to your face. I wanted to rally the troops and make you feel as awful and shamed as you could possibly feel. But I knew that was an emotional reaction and not a graceful one.
I did, however, think about this all night. I contemplated the entire situation.
I thought of you with your hand over your mouth, giggling as if you're somehow better than the woman in the shower. I was dumbfounded by your commentary as though you hold the ability to judge another human being. I could not believe another person could be so shallow and patronizing as you were.
I laughed at your inability to apologize beyond "oops, that wasn't supposed to go out", treating this as though it is the equivalent of sending out a tasteless joke via "Reply all".
But it wasn't so innocent. It was invasive, offensive, predatory, and inhumane.
You see, Dani... This hurts my heart.
This whole situation, and who you show you are in real life, is hurtful and hateful. Saying you meant that for a private conversation only shows who you actually are. Character is who you are when no one is watching and now we are all privy to what yours is like.
I physically cried for the woman in the shower. I've been that woman in the shower. I know how that woman feels. My stretch marks are because I've grown two human beings in my body. My scars and cuts and marks are from battling breast cancer for nearly a full year of my life. My calloused feet are from walking through either of my two jobs or to my school for my education. My lines and wrinkles are courtesy of a lifetime of wonderful emotion. My grays are my proof of existing this far.
It's not easy being this way, though. It takes a lot of self talk to remember my worth in a vulnerable place like a gym shower. It's a lot to remember being surrounded by a society that glorifies people like you and dismisses women like me. It is a lot to push beyond the walls that women, like you, put up for us.
Do you know how much resolve and self talk it takes for a woman like her - like me - to get into the shower at a gym? Do you have any idea as to what she's struggled with in her life?
How dare you decide for her that she's somehow less worthy of basic human decency and respect because she doesn't fit into some preconceived, patriarchal mold that you carry.
We women are already having to fight inequality, wage theft, domestic violence, rape, swim-time judge apologists, victim blaming, body shaming..
Do we need to worry about being able to take care of our bodies in a place that is supposed to be safe, too?
Why would you do this?
If you genuinely cared about people being healthy, you would celebrate her. If you cared about people, period, you would have kept your phone shut... but you don't and you didn't, and here you are...
Here we are.
So, now what?
As evidenced by your exit from the online world, you're hiding out. I get that.
You've just become the woman in the shower.
Now all eyes are on you and everyone is giggling with their hands on their faces saying how they "can't unsee" you. The difference is, they're talking not of the exterior housing called your body - they're talking about the ugliness they saw in your heart.
How does it feel? I bet it feels pretty awful.
I imagine you're embarrassed or feeling a bit judged.
Maybe you're ashamed of your own face right now.
It doesn't feel good, does it? It shouldn't.
This is what we old, scarred, cellulite-having, gym-showering people call a "life lesson".
You have a few options right now but let me give you a tip: learn from this.
You have an opportunity to make yourself a better person. It won't be easy. It won't be pleasant. It will be worth it. Why? Because, God willing, you'll get to make it to when you're scarred and stretched a bit, too, and you'll understand this blog.
I also guarantee that you'll remember this incident and see how it feels to be on that other side of someone's potential phone camera.
No matter what, I promise you this: We all age and you're not exempt from that. I only hope that when you are older and trying to take care of your failing body, that no one does the same to you when you're getting clean.
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Now, while I’m assured that you young folks walking your own high school stage has life figured out by now, I’m going to be the stereotypical older person and give you some advice. Why? Because I have a lot to say and my children have already endured these talks more times than they’d care to admit. Humor me.
Here is 10 pieces of advice to those of you graduating...
Keep these points in mind while you get out into the world. Be good people. Be the kind of people that you wish to see in the world. Your contribution matters. You have value.
So - get out there and make this life of yours a good one!
Hey there -
How are you? Good? Have you been taking good care of you and your hair? Awesome.
I know I haven't been blogging much as of late. I got the crazy idea that I'd go ahead and become an over-40 college freshman. Yep. I'm going to try and get a bachelor's degree from scratch. Feel free to call me crazy.
I've also taken on a lot of projects as of late. Hopefully you're following me on Instagram so that you can see my more regular posts.
Also, you can check out my other website: SJohnsonArt.com for the latest happenings in my art / photography world.
Here's something cool, though:
The folks at Modern Salon Magazine talk about healthy hairdressers every month and I was one of the ones that they are featuring for this month's issue.
You can CLICK HERE to read their digital edition of the article, should you be so inclined.
PS - The latest Instagram contest is happening now so jump in on my InstaWagon of fun to get your chance at free beauty goods!
I recently got the opportunity to contribute some insight into a beauty article regarding the new box color pastels (Click HERE to read) and it got me thinking that I need to blog about home hair color. It seems as though, no matter how many times we professionals warn against it, those drug store offerings keep on enticing the masses and that needs to be talked about. Guys - Seriously... STOP USING BOX COLOR!
Let me break it down...
1. "But, Beyonce and Gwen say they're worth it and I am too!"
No, Beyonce and Gwen aren't coloring their hair at home with that stuff on the commercial.
True fact - they're paid to say that. They're paid to say they're "worth it" and that they get paid mad dollars to pose for those advertisements. I guarantee that they're not sitting in their giant home master bath with cheap, oversized gloves on asking their friends to get the back for them.
Reality check - Those ladies (and any other person they have on their ads that is a model / celebrity) achieved their look in a chair with a professional hairdresser. They trust someone with the knowledge and expertise to touch up those roots to the precise formula or tack in that weave. You should, too.
2. "They say it's professional color at home so it's supposed to be the same as what you use, right?"
NO, NO, NO, NO, NO! No that's not true. Do you think that the folks squeezing chemicals in a factory know YOU, your hair and it's history? No. Of course they don't. They're just squeezing chemicals in a tube and hoping for the best.
They're job is to get as many people the results on the box as possible. They're catering to the law of averages. What does that mean? It means so many things, including:
3. "But working with you costs more than a box of color" (a.k.a. "you just want my money"):
Yes, when you're paying me, you're going to pay more than the $15 you'll spend at the drug store. When you pay me, though, you're getting my thousands of hours of education and even more thousands of hours of apprenticing under a master colorist followed by experience. I not only had to go to school to be licensed but I also have to do continued education to keep my license. I'm a certified Pravana master colorist, a trained cosmetology educator and so much more. I put in a lot of time and money into this.
You're also paying for my honesty and for some truth. You're paying for technique and placement.
You're paying for results.
Seeing me for the initial change and upkeep is way, way less expensive than the hundreds plus hours you'll have to spend for me to fix a problem created from home.
So, to say I'm doing this for the lettuce is a complete disregard to the time and effort I put into being sure you know the truth about hair, your color and keeping it beautiful.
At the end of the day, the true predators of your wallet are the box color manufacturers who entice you and lie to you with the misleading advertisements. They're the ones who are suckering you out of your money, not me.
If you're really hurting in your budget but your hair is not where you want it to be, you can call your local salon and ask if they have model days or if they have a list where you can submit your info to be a model for their apprentice. You can pay a much lower cost (model / product fee) and get results watched over and guided by a master stylist. The apprentice is already licensed and has done beauty school so they're learning real world applications and you can be a big helper in that.
For big color jobs, corrections, fashion colors and more, see a pro with a background and portfolio that shows that body of work because a professional job is what you're truly worth.
Happy Hair Days to you all!
Being a hairdresser is a wonderful thing. I love being able to help ladies achieve their hair dreams while also educating and guiding along the way. A long time ago, I did the corporate cubicle life. My heart wasn't there. It's here - in the salon... Here are some great true hair-in-my-chair stories that I've had the opportunity to be a part of these past couple of weeks.
After visit 1 with Miss C, her hair had already been through a lot so my goal was to get her to where she could live with the result and then let her hair rest. She took good care of her locks in between so by appointment #2 she left with this blue magic. The ultimate goal for her is to get to where she's more pastel and opalescent in hair color and we are well on our way.
I also completely understand the mom not wanting to go back to that same place for an attempted fix. Too much more cutting and this little girl's options would have been reduced to only a pixie cut. I was able to connect with mama and we stayed late on Saturday to work this cut out. It was a challenge that took some time but we managed to get that back blended well enough that it all looks like one haircut. My heart sang when the she smiled. Being able to help someone achieve freedom from worry about their hair is paramount to my mission as a stylist.
Have I told you how much I love doing extensions? No? Well - I LOVE DOING EXTENSIONS!
Why? Because they provide instant gratification to my clients. They leave feeling amazing (Weave N' Leave!) and they get to go back to their life feeling beautiful and not having to worry about their hair. These ladies often live their lives in ponytails and they wish they could just have their hair down. This lovely had long hair but it was fine and thinning. Now? It's so much longer and filled out in one appointment. I use Babe tape-in extensions for great results with minimal damage and ease of wear. My clients love how they don't have to "feel" them and that they're back out of the salon in just a couple of hours.
My oldest friend and hair muse, Kelly, came by this week so we could work on our plan we talked about back in December. She wanted a lot of pastel colors done throughout in watercolor style. Basically, each section of hair was color melted with 2 or 3 colors from the all-lavender roots to the ends.
But the truth of it all is this - if you're not wiling to lighten your hair to super blonde or to sacrifice some shampoo days (Hello, dry shampoo!) then this color result may not be the best decision for you. Consulting with a stylist who works in this kind of color regularly will give you more answers as to what's right for you.
No matter what hair adventures that you may have in store - or on your wish list - be sure to see a stylist that works in those services that you're looking for and be sure to be willing to maintain it. Many stylists (like myself) offer free consultations so all kinds of questions and plans can be run through, together.
Happy Hair Days to you all!
Dallas-based, licensed beauty professional, Sony photographer / Photojournalist, visual artist, wife, mom, breast cancer survivor... tired.