I'm making a break for it, y'all. I'm packing up my Facebook and moving on.
It's been on my mind for some time - well, actually - for the bulk of this entire year... maybe longer. I can't tell you how many times I've said "If I didn't use it for business..." or many other excuses to stay on there.
Then I realized something - I'm in the facebook trap!
1. It's a trap!
That laziness trap that I mentioned above - Facebook is the ultimate for that. It's the virtual convenience store of our friends. We pop in, see what snack we choose to gnaw on, pay our penance and move back out into real life.
Sometimes people bully their way into the store while you're there and won't let you check out because they want to argue about the price of Cheetos and how you made your cash to pay for yours.
Truly. I can't take anymore of the awfulness. I log in and it's a never-ending scroll of people ranting and raving about how awful the world is and how their opinion is the right one followed by photos of abused kids, animals, terrorism victims and more. "It gets you to pay attention to the issues" you may say. NO. It gets me to want to cry about the world - all of the time. Yet, when I'm out in the ACTUAL world and seeing people that I ACTUALLY know, I don't feel this constant drain on my person.
Why is that? Because Facebook is just a glorified highlight reel.
That's it. It's not real life. It's what people want you to see and nothing more. It's not real by any means.
I can read the news anywhere and - super bonus - it doesn't come with a preamble from your uncle Bob on how guns / the south / the terrorists / 'Merica / Obama and what not are causing and/or helping whatever issue. I like having my own mind and using it. Thanks.
It's an overwhelming siege upon all of us. It's no wonder people feel helpless and frustrated and sad. Look at what is inundating you daily. Science and psychology have shown countless times that our thought patterns and our brain can be constantly shaped by what we concentrate on. I don't want my matter to be shaped into that.
One of my friends did mention the "unfollow" feature but, then why am I on Facebook? Honestly, I'd have to unfollow a good chunk of people and it's just not worth it to me.
3. It's encouraging the bad.
That soul sucking part? Yeah, I believe it's a vortex that is swirling over and over and growing into a category 5.
What I mean is - all of that awfulness keeps growing because everything angry feeds off of each other. Everyone is wanting to be heard and wanting to be right so they start shouting over each other - louder and louder. It's draining. No one has a real discussion.
No real communication happens at all.
We see it all of the time.
Person one has an opinion. Person two counters. Person one counters and they go back and forth until person one deletes them and then vaguebooks on the whole scenario.
Then there's the grand vaguebook gestures and the "OMG You can read this so you're a friend" crap. It's all so passive aggressive and manipulative. Do you know what else is manipulative and passive aggressive? The "If you have a heart, you'll share this photo" or "How many likes can I get for this poor thing versus that?" bull. I don't need your guilt trip and I don't need to prove how I feel or what is in my heart to anyone - let alone someone I met a couple of times in my life. Sorry - not sorry.
I don't like that stuff. It's too uncomfortable for me.
Also - call me crazy - but I think that all of this social bullying incites even more fear and rage and contributes to the world going apesh*t around us.
I believe that some guy scrolling through his news feed enough can get enraged enough to go try and take down a bunch of strangers. The constant sharing of inappropriate or blatant inaccurate news and rage fuels that basic fear we have inside.
It's hard to choose love when a bunch of people are sharing bloody photos and inciting fear.
Seriously. I don't get any real business from it - nothing that couldn't have been fulfilled through my website, email, going to the brick-and-mortar salon I work at or more. I'm not falling off of the face of the earth.
I'll stick with Instagram and it's simplicity. I have a website (hi!) and I have phone and email. I'm good. I can be found.
I can look on websites or show posters in my neighborhood to see who's coming to town. I can ACTUALLY TALK to other humans in my circle. I can even write a letter if I'm so inclined. I'm certainly not without when I go without Facebook.
What about photos? Yes, I do take a lot of photos of shows, etc. That is remedied, here - ONLINE GALLERY
Family? They're capable of texting and email, too. I can email a photo or two. Seriously... it's all good.
So, I don't worry about any need, here.
Men's Journal - 7 Reasons why you should quit facebook
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XO Jane - Why my Dad's Brain Cancer made me quit Facebook
Gizmodo - Top Ten Reasons you should quit facebook (security related)
Tech Insider - Quitting Facebook will make you happier and less stressed